Little things that mean A LOT to your Kid

For adults, these things might sound silly or too immature, but for the little ones, they mean a lot. In order to be the effective mother or the father, there are certain things that you should be doing. In fact, there are things that every kid needs from his/her parents.

When you do these things, they’ll mean a lot to your kids. Then, why not try them?

Mother and Kid

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Have a look below and get down to incorporating the teeny-weeny things that you should do to make your baby love you.

  • Give the time and attention to them that they deserve. You can keep your professional scenes outside the house, but when you come home – be the parent that they expect you to be.
  • Show interest in what they do. They might want you to lie down so that your daughter can paint your faint with makeup or your son want you to be there to witness his first tech-savvy experiment. Just be patient and with them.
  • Have a family mantra. We all feel depressed sometimes including your kids. When your kid is depressed, you can chant the slogan or mantra when you want to brighten up the mood and also do things that make them happy. Stick it on the fridge where the others can do the same for you too (You know #fambam).
  • Go for a walk – with one at a time. If you have more than one kid, you should give your time to all of them individually. They deserve it and you obviously cannot handle all at once to avoid any kind of sibling fight. Small conversations are one of the factors that help you raise strong and confident kids.
  • Say ‘yes’ to things that slightly off-limits – sometimes. You can go shopping girls party wear even when you’re tight on budget, let them get drenched in the rain, and other things like that. Let your 4-year-old stomp in every puddle along the way. Even without rain boots.
  • FaceTime or Skype with the elders sometimes. It might sound like a trouble to you, but kids love their grandparents.
  • If your child has given it a good try, but he’s still miserable and anxious and really, truly wants to quit the team, you should be there motivating him. He needs it more than anything right now.
  • Adopt a pet. The dog or a cat or even a bird would be the best companion your child needs right now.
  • Pamper the baby. Going shopping or online shopping for kids sounds like a plan. You should do that in order to keep the ratio of shopping and happiness balanced.
  • Give your toddler a chance to fight his own battles in the sandbox or on the playground before you intervene.
  • When you kid is almost there to quit the game or doing something that he’s working on and facing problems, don’t encourage them to let go of it so soon. Let them take their time.
  • Teach them something new – every week. One new thing every week, your kid will learn and would patiently wait for the time that you’ll teach something interesting.

Would you want to add something to the list? Do let us know in the comments below.

7 things you should Never say to your Kid

Do you sometimes yell at your kids? Do you say bad words which you later regret and wish that you shouldn’t have said them in the first place? When you are mean to your little one because of anything that he/she has done, you have to curb yourself and abstain from saying anything wrong. Because, if you don’t, later you’ll be wondering if your kid loves you or not. Moreover, your child can even go into depression because of how you behave with him/her.

You would have heard phrases like – “wait until your dad comes home” or “I really wish you were like your sibling” and more. These words are harsh and very hard on your little one’s mind to handle. That’s not it! There are many other things that you should never say to your little one and make them anxious kids.

This blog details you about 7 things you should never say to your kids.

1. Leave me alone

The very first thing that parents need to stop saying to their kids is – Leave me alone. It is understood that parents need some time off from all the chores, but that doesn’t mean you tell your little ones to stay away from you because you need some time. Leaving you alone would also mean that they are left alone without you. When you keep your kids at a distance, they eventually get distanced from you.

2. You’re okay

Let’s take an example, your kid comes home hurt and is bleeding. While consoling him, you carry on telling him that you’re okay. Actually, he is not, he’s hurt and it’s hurting him badly and that’s exactly why he’s not okay. Try giving him a hug and acknowledging what he’s feeling by saying something like, “That was a scary fall.” Then ask whether he’d like a bandage or a kiss (or both). Then he’d be okay.

3. Don’t cry

Don’t cry, don’t be sad, and many other variations to don’t be sorry that you need to stop saying to your little minds. If you child cries often and is sad, you shouldn’t tell him that don’t cry. There is a possibility that something might be going in inside them. You should be the effective mother who would comfort them and ask what’s bothering them rather than covering up by saying don’t cry like a baby.

4. Can’t you behave like your sister/brother?

This is probably the racist thing you can say to hurt the emotions of the little ones. Comparisons have never been the thing that little ones like. Well, the elders are not accustomed to comparisons and kids are innocent with a gentle mind. When you say that can’t you behave like your elder brother or sister, it adversely affects their minds. There is a possibility that they try to be like them and in the way get anxious or they become a rebel after being scolded like this numerous times.

5. Stop or I’ll beat you up

Hitting kids is a punishable offense, no matter how you hit them. Moreover, torturing them mentally, physically or emotionally is equally offensive. You can tell them that if you don’t stop, I wouldn’t buy you that tutu dress or that shirt and t-shirt, but don’t raise your hand to them. This is not the way to talk or behave with your kids.

6. Great job

Yeah! This might sound like a source of positive reinforcement for your little one but affects adversely. What comes along as praise makes your little one dependent on the praise or you saying a great job every time they do something. In fact, they’d do it to get your attention on them, which is not good. You should praise the way they do things rather than what they do.

7. Let me help you

Your kid is trying to finish a puzzle and looks stuck somewhere. This is human tendency to help. As a parent, you might want to go up and help him solve the puzzle, but is that good for his efforts? He might look up to for help in the future rather than trying to do things himself. You might throw hints at him when he’s trying to do and help rather than spoon-feeding him.

Do you have any other phrases that you shouldn’t say to your kids? Do let us know and raise confident kids being the parent that your kids deserve.

Planning Adoption? – Things you should know Before Adopting

I recently adopted a little girl and named her Samaira. Aarti was already there for me, but we wanted to make our family bigger and we mutually decided to adopt a baby girl and give her a good life. Hence, we did. It is a beautiful feeling buying things for her (with Aarti’s help). All the girls party wear, tutu dresses, rompers, nibs, tiny bowls and so much more.

Adopting Samaira was not very difficult, but I really wished I knew certain things before we got her home. That would have prepared me for a lot of things. Now, when one of my cousins, who also, is looking for adoption. She couldn’t conceive and then they planned to finally adopt. There’s time for her family to get a baby and then I realized that parents like her have been looking for information that could help them understand parenthood and becoming parents with adopted babies. Let us take a look at the things you should know before adopting a baby and start the celebration of parenthood.

1. Is adoption a good decision

Before even starting your research of place to adopt and how to adopt a baby, you should sit down, spend quality time with your family to figure out whether you need to adopt or not. As my personal experience, I have seen families who already have kids and adopt but are not able to provide the same love. On the other hand, I have also seen those who keep no bars between their-born and the adopted. So, you need to take that call.

2. Research – it is your only resort

We all know how the grandmothers in the family take care of the new one in the family. Go on and teach yourself (before teaching the kids) by reading the articles, blogs and everything that is available online about adoption as well as parenting. When you read and make yourself aware of the practical happenings, you’ll be on the advantageous side.

3. Adoption is not for everyone – you should know that

Just to adopt a baby and leave him/her to be someone in the family is not what adoption is all about. When you plan to adopt, you should remember that the kid that is coming home deserves all the love, security and more. He/she should get good food, education, clothes and everything that your own baby would be eligible to. If you are ready to do all these things, you are all set to adopt.

4. Prepare yourself for the same

Don’t make the whole after-coming-home a mess by bringing in things at that very moment. Prepare yourself and the house before the little one comes into the family. For example, from the baby cot, kids fashion dresses to the food and the toys and everything else that sounds necessary should be present in the house in time.

These are the few questions that I should have thought about, but when I do think now, I feel great about taking this step. This goes out to all the parents who have been thinking of adopting. Do give in some thought into it and take your decision.

Does your baby love you? – Signs to prove

No, your baby won’t actually tell you that he/she loves you. At least not the one who’s only about a month old or about 2 years old. The kids above this age will somehow speak those three words to you whenever you tell them that you love them and they’d reply with the same. As you and your baby get to know each other, you’d understand whether your little one loves you or not with the words, actions, expressions and more.

For now, let’s assume that you really want to know what your child feels for you. This blog lays down the signs that would let you understand that your tiny tot loves you a LOT.

1. He knows – You are You

Within a few weeks, the baby understands and can make a difference between the caregiver and the others. Eventually, he’d want to be with you and in your arms being the happy baby. When you won’t be available around him, he’d look for you and occasionally cry to come back to you.

2. The expressions would become flirty

Almost a month later, the baby would know that you talk to her, make faces and spend a lot of time. In return, she would also do the same to you. He would make faces while you talk to her and giggle, the coy looking away, and more. These goofy games appear to be as important in cementing a baby’s attachment as your responses to her physical needs. At around 4 months, she’ll also be unable to take her eyes off of you.

3. The smile – even if it is short

Now, you would have heard that when at a young age if the baby smiles for a split second, it is something to do with gas or is an involuntary reflex. However, that’s not true. The smile of your little one is what happens when you are busy showing her kids fairy dresses or pampering her for being the good girl or even teaching her good things. This is a sign of the fact that the baby loves you and your company.

4. The latch-feeling for a toy

Let’s be true to ourselves that we all have had a stuffed toy as a kid which was the dearest part of our childhood. There would have been times when you couldn’t sleep without it and latched onto it when you felt insecure. Your baby will also do it. He/she would want to stay with it all the time but will trust you (only you) with it.

5. The stare

You might consider staring as a rude thing, but this is how love is shown. The baby would start to recognize your face, smell and the voice as she’s growing up. Later, in terms of stare, she would be trying to understand your face better in order to remember it. Hence, the next time you find your baby staring at you, just let her be. She’s getting to know you.

6. The arms are raised high – pick them up

No matter with whom your little one is, if you walk by, he would want to jump to you. How? He would raise his arms towards you and ask you to hold him no matter what you’re doing. This is another way to say that he wants to be with you and loves you a lot.

How does your little one cling to you? Do let us know in the comments below.

Is your kid facing depression? – What to do?

Depression. This is that disease which can a lot of damage to a person young or adult, big or small. Talking about kids, teenage is the time when the disease affects the most. What do you do to minimize the effects of depression? Well, there are many ways to handle depression and that’s what this article talks about.

This article details you about the ways that can handle depression in your kids.

1. Talk to them

The very first thing to do when you find out that your little one is undergoing some sort of problem. It is important to talk to your kids and empathize with them. Do not try to pinch or dig into what’s their mental status, but build a bond that they open up to you without trying too hard. Talking is the key to getting down to the basic problem and hence, the solution could be founded.

2. Empathize with them

There are chances that you haven’t been through depression before and it is completely normal. If you have experience of the same, you’d know how to handle, but if you haven’t then don’t sympathize but try to empathize with them. Putting yourself in your kid’s shoe would give them better hope. Work on understanding your teen’s feelings and it will help you to better understand them.

3. Don’t try to fix things

This is a basic human tendency that when parents find out that their kids are going through something, they want to give probable solutions to ease out their pain. Your teen is at a pivotal stage in their life and they need to learn the necessary skills for problem-solving. One way they can learn that is solving some of the problems leading to their depression.

4. Do things that they like

When you cannot give solutions to their problem, you feel frustrated. That’s okay. What you can do to make them feel better – do things that they like. Take them out their favorite spots, buy them kids party wear, watch movies with them and do things that they love to do. This would lighten their mood and give them temporary happiness.

5. Monitor their symptoms

Monitoring their symptoms is a helpful way to understand whether your child is in depression or not. From seeing how they eat, sleep, behave to how much they sleep, loss of interest, a difference in energy level, difficulty in concentrating, feelings of irritation, self-reported feelings of depression and more can be some of them that would give you a heads up on what’s your kid’s mental state.

6. Educate yourself

You should read about depression and the ways that you can help. This is the biggest way that you can help your child. You educate yourself and he/she would find comfort in you. You are starting the education process by reading this post. Keep reading other blog posts and articles about depression and teenagers. This would help.

Understanding and empathizing is the biggest thing you can do to help. Be headstrong with the little one.

Kindergartners alert – Mommy tips to consider

Haven’t we been talking all along about kids and kids fashion dresses and blah blah blah…?? If you take a closer look, it is the parents that we’re sending the message to in order to focus the little bundles of joy.

So, this one goes out to all the mommy darlings out there..and the papas too. Let’s just believe that you are parents to the tiny tots who are getting all set for their kindergarten days in order to get their basic understanding of school right.

Kids who are just about to start their education at kindergarten are so vividly – exciting and nerve-wracking at the same time! After all, it is a big step for the mommies and the babies together and you obviously don’t want anything to go wrong.

Kids in a Bus Gif

Here we are with some beneficial and practical tips for the parents that they can consider to keep the stress at bay and enjoy every bit of the moment.

1. Socialize before the school begins

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You would definitely have friends who are at the same stage as you are and beginning to see this new chapter unfold. When you get to meet the other families and so does your child, it helps your kiddo to feel comfortable on his/her first day at prep. This is one step where you do something to be there for your little one.

2. Shop smart

Girl talking about Shopping Gif

What be the new feeling if you don’t buy new fashionable clothes for your little one? In order teach them to look presentable among the other students, you have to shop kids fashion dresses online and get them ready. Pick the most colorful tutu dresses, boys t-shirts, tunics and more for their regular wear. The munchkins would love your efforts too.

3. Pack smarter

Lunch box packing

What to pack for the lunch break is one BIGGG..problem that mothers go through. Through the various healthy, quick and hassle-free food options that they gobble up without being too fuzzy. Sandwiches, pasta, nuggets, egg parantha, Maggi and so many other eateries are there to keep you all happy and the baby – healthy.

4. Start the teaching at home

Mom teaching little girl

No matter what you do and where you send your little one to study, the basic teaching always starts at home. Rather than believing that only the kindergarten will make the efforts and your child will learn everything, let me tell you – THAT IS NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!! How you behave at home, the way you talk and more are the factors that will be the basic teaching for your baby. Sing the rhymes at home and make them repeat after you, talk to them about what happened at school and do more.

5. Don’t freak out

Freaking out

Just breathe in and breathe out when you think that things are getting messy and you’re not able to handle them together. More than you, your kid will be confused as in what’s wrong with you. Just take some time off and calm down because how you are will affect your little one.

All the best for your new journey!!