Little things that mean A LOT to your Kid

For adults, these things might sound silly or too immature, but for the little ones, they mean a lot. In order to be the effective mother or the father, there are certain things that you should be doing. In fact, there are things that every kid needs from his/her parents.

When you do these things, they’ll mean a lot to your kids. Then, why not try them?

Mother and Kid

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Have a look below and get down to incorporating the teeny-weeny things that you should do to make your baby love you.

  • Give the time and attention to them that they deserve. You can keep your professional scenes outside the house, but when you come home – be the parent that they expect you to be.
  • Show interest in what they do. They might want you to lie down so that your daughter can paint your faint with makeup or your son want you to be there to witness his first tech-savvy experiment. Just be patient and with them.
  • Have a family mantra. We all feel depressed sometimes including your kids. When your kid is depressed, you can chant the slogan or mantra when you want to brighten up the mood and also do things that make them happy. Stick it on the fridge where the others can do the same for you too (You know #fambam).
  • Go for a walk – with one at a time. If you have more than one kid, you should give your time to all of them individually. They deserve it and you obviously cannot handle all at once to avoid any kind of sibling fight. Small conversations are one of the factors that help you raise strong and confident kids.
  • Say ‘yes’ to things that slightly off-limits – sometimes. You can go shopping girls party wear even when you’re tight on budget, let them get drenched in the rain, and other things like that. Let your 4-year-old stomp in every puddle along the way. Even without rain boots.
  • FaceTime or Skype with the elders sometimes. It might sound like a trouble to you, but kids love their grandparents.
  • If your child has given it a good try, but he’s still miserable and anxious and really, truly wants to quit the team, you should be there motivating him. He needs it more than anything right now.
  • Adopt a pet. The dog or a cat or even a bird would be the best companion your child needs right now.
  • Pamper the baby. Going shopping or online shopping for kids sounds like a plan. You should do that in order to keep the ratio of shopping and happiness balanced.
  • Give your toddler a chance to fight his own battles in the sandbox or on the playground before you intervene.
  • When you kid is almost there to quit the game or doing something that he’s working on and facing problems, don’t encourage them to let go of it so soon. Let them take their time.
  • Teach them something new – every week. One new thing every week, your kid will learn and would patiently wait for the time that you’ll teach something interesting.

Would you want to add something to the list? Do let us know in the comments below.

Is your kid facing depression? – What to do?

Depression. This is that disease which can a lot of damage to a person young or adult, big or small. Talking about kids, teenage is the time when the disease affects the most. What do you do to minimize the effects of depression? Well, there are many ways to handle depression and that’s what this article talks about.

This article details you about the ways that can handle depression in your kids.

1. Talk to them

The very first thing to do when you find out that your little one is undergoing some sort of problem. It is important to talk to your kids and empathize with them. Do not try to pinch or dig into what’s their mental status, but build a bond that they open up to you without trying too hard. Talking is the key to getting down to the basic problem and hence, the solution could be founded.

2. Empathize with them

There are chances that you haven’t been through depression before and it is completely normal. If you have experience of the same, you’d know how to handle, but if you haven’t then don’t sympathize but try to empathize with them. Putting yourself in your kid’s shoe would give them better hope. Work on understanding your teen’s feelings and it will help you to better understand them.

3. Don’t try to fix things

This is a basic human tendency that when parents find out that their kids are going through something, they want to give probable solutions to ease out their pain. Your teen is at a pivotal stage in their life and they need to learn the necessary skills for problem-solving. One way they can learn that is solving some of the problems leading to their depression.

4. Do things that they like

When you cannot give solutions to their problem, you feel frustrated. That’s okay. What you can do to make them feel better – do things that they like. Take them out their favorite spots, buy them kids party wear, watch movies with them and do things that they love to do. This would lighten their mood and give them temporary happiness.

5. Monitor their symptoms

Monitoring their symptoms is a helpful way to understand whether your child is in depression or not. From seeing how they eat, sleep, behave to how much they sleep, loss of interest, a difference in energy level, difficulty in concentrating, feelings of irritation, self-reported feelings of depression and more can be some of them that would give you a heads up on what’s your kid’s mental state.

6. Educate yourself

You should read about depression and the ways that you can help. This is the biggest way that you can help your child. You educate yourself and he/she would find comfort in you. You are starting the education process by reading this post. Keep reading other blog posts and articles about depression and teenagers. This would help.

Understanding and empathizing is the biggest thing you can do to help. Be headstrong with the little one.

How to stop sibling fights?

Being a child psychologist and a mother, there are a lot of requests that come to me regarding their little ones. The majority of the requests are about the resolving the sibling fights. Well, that’s an absolutely okay situation for two or more siblings to fight and play together, but sometimes these fights take ugly turns which is not a good thing. I have been getting these requests so I thought of putting down the possible solutions that can work in your favor of stopping the sibling fights.

Find the steps that can help you intervene in the fight and get over with it.

1. Just stay calm Not

on Earth has ever calmed anyone else down by raising their own voice. Raising your voice on the little ones would not help you at any point. In fact, they might take you as a role model and start imitating you the next time they fight. Be stern but calm while asking them to stay away from each other at that particular moment.

2. Don’t take sides

You have to be impartial. Being biased towards one of them will make the other one hate you and the fact that you took the other kiddo’s side. At any cost, you should be unbiased towards both your kids.

3. Encourage respect

Your house rule should be – everyone teaches the each other with respect, kindness, and humility. You should not allow screaming, fighting, thrashing and other activities in the house. The motto is to build peace and harmony between the younger ones. Let them play together with the rule that if they fight again, they’ll be grounded an will have no access to any games or any luxury like the birthday dresses for boys (on their respective birthdays) or anything else.

4. Teach them negotiation

Negotiation skills are what you have to teach them with the other things you make them learn. Tell them that they have to manage conflicts by themselves and if they are unable to do it, the results will be the same for all of them. Your job is to teach them. So if they aren’t too upset, move right in and model conflict resolution.

5. Don’t be judgmental while resolving issues

When your kids fight, there are times when they hurt each other and there are cuts, bruises on the body. Your focus should be on applying medicine on the wounds rather than passing judgments on who’s right and who’s wrong. Let the child who’s hurt take out his/her anger because he’s/she’s hurt and is wounded. But that shouldn’t let you go out of the boundaries.

6. Promote calmness

Once you’ve sorted out the fight and your kids are not anxious anymore, with no hard feelings, you should give them treats to be the good kids. Whether you take them out or buy them kids fashion dresses, positive reinforcement is necessary.

How do you calm down your little ones? Do let us know in the comments below.

How to be there for your kids?

Being a parent isn’t an easy task. Especially in today’s time when you have to balance responsibilities towards your work as well as family, things get tricky. There’s work, homemaking, schooling and so much more that keeps you super busy. However, no matter how busy you get, your attention towards your little ones should not be hampered because if that happens, you’ll have to bear the consequences which are not good.

To be there for your kids means that no matter what’s going on in your life, when your child is talking to you, you listen and pay full attention. This being just an instance, there are many other times and ways when you have to be there for the little ones.

1. Be attentive to their words – even their silence

Mommy feeding food to little girl

Kids are very gentle when it comes to understanding things that happen around them. However, they might get affected too easily but will not be able to show the same. You have to be attentive to their anxiety issues, their words as well as their silence. With different kids reacting differently, some may just get violent, some would say foul words whereas; others would confine themselves to the room. You have to make them speak up and pay attention to any weird behavior about your young one.

2. Spend time with them – quality time

Father with kids

Every parent-child needs to spend some quality time with each other in order to have a fruitful relationship. You might have quoted me saying this in my earlier blogs as well because it plays an important role in the child’s upbringing. Buying girls tunic dresses for your daughter, playing on the PS4 with your son, doing online shopping for kids with them and other fun activities will bring both the sides closer to each other.

3. Encourage them to be confident in their choices

Girl learning cycling with parents

Encouragement to be a confident person is one of the main roles you (as a parent) play in your child’s life. What better can you do for your child than giving him/her a life that is full of confidence and they are independent enough to take their own decisions and uphold you in your older age? When you invest in them at the right time, you will see your children making up to you.

Be the parent and enjoy parenthood by being the that your child needs you to be with these steps and you will not regret later.

4 ways to help kids manage anxiety

We all have anxiety. You, me and everyone else as well. You should also know that kids too have anxiety issues. Their anxiety is quite common among adolescents and children. We, as adults, don’t realize that even kids face all these troubles but when they do, you are the one who’s supposed to hold on tight and strive to make them feel better.

How do you do that?

Let’s find out the ways to do the same.

1. Encourage to face situations and not run from them

For kids, facing a situation is a very difficult thing and running away from them is way easier. Don’t we do the same? Likewise, kids are quite vulnerable when they’re facing tough times and try to avoid the situations. However, you are supposed to be the tower of refuge for them. Be there for them, encourage them to tell you everything (no matter how bad the situation is), just listen them out and look for a solution. DO NOT make discourage them or criticize them.

2. Let them do what they love to do

My daughter is about 15 and she loves to cook food. She’s always been the one who would indulge in cooking when she’d feel low and she still does the same. Now, I give her a slightly complex food (according to her age) to cook when I know that she’s stressed. She would focus on doing that and make herself comfortable and then discuss the situation with me. Likewise, if your kid loves to shop, why not introduce online shopping for kids to them and let them go through the inventory and add what they like to the cart. Then you can buy one or two of them to make them feel happy. There are many other things that they can indulge in.

3. Build up positive thinking

Little ones live and learn by looking at you. You are their role model and what you’ll do, they’ll do. You have to build in the good things and thoughts in them by doing things that are a sign of that. When they’ll see you avoiding stress and the stressful situations, they too will do the same. You face your fears by looking for the possible solutions and talking about them, they too will look for the same.

4. Good reinforcement is always appreciated

You think your kid has done something good? Why not give them a treat for the same? With the festive season around, you dress them the right way with kids ethnic dresses (gift them and they’ll be very happy). You can even take them out for a treat and get them good food with a day out with you having long talks and fun together. Kids love to do something like this and they will be less anxious about what’s happening around or even with their studies.

What do you do when your kid is facing anxiety issues? Do let us know in the comments below.